Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sunshine and feeling the grass beneath your bare feet: not living a nightmare in the darkness of your soul.
Where is the commandment to honour the children? For many adult children in order to learn to honour themselves, this means walking through that darkness of tearful and traumatic memories to reach that light of healing and acceptance for what was.
The danger in reaction to abuses is that others will reject it completely and in the process will dismiss it and still want it to be brushed under the carpet.
When caught up in the frenzy and madness of yearly festivities it is easy for others to forget the lies, the betrayal and the abuses.
Do not judge yourself by what others did to you and inflicted upon you.
Abuse will manipulate and twist a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Those innocent feelings are belittled and mocked to the point where the child will learn swiftly to ignore their feelings.
Pain, outrage, anger, hate, vengeance, confusion and self-hate will lead the child to regress and shut down until all their feelings go underground.
To those who abuse, the sin is yours, the crime is yours and the shame is yours to own.
To those who protect the perpetrators, blaming the victim only masks the evil within: making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for all the innocent children or perish with the abusers.
With the constant presence of dark memories, there are many who do not wish to sleep for fear of nightmares. Sadly, there are many still who do not wish to wake for the same fear.
During those times when your mind is quiet, if you listen closely, you will hear the children weeping silently.
Whilst you continue to ignore the child’s cries for help you are rejecting their silent pleas to be rescued.